Self-love takes many forms – not only pride and vanity and worldly ambition, but a sickly preoccupation with one’s own troubles, physical or otherwise. Such self-centered, ingrown souls make themselves the center of their universe. Self thrives on attention. It grows as it is petted and coddled, until it becomes a colossus, dominating one’s life and all others it can by making friends and loved ones the slaves of such self-worshippers.
The best treatment is neglect by becoming preoccupied with something or someone else. Such ailments disappear when ignored. The supreme preoccupation is not a mere person or cause but Christ Himself. That is why He asked us to deny self, take up the cross, and follow Him. That is why he bade us to lose our lives to find them. When He fills our minds and hearts and lives, other gods vanish. And no god is harder to topple from its shrine than self. It will gladly give up lesser idols if only to be allowed to retain the throne.
Taken from Day By Day with Vance Havner, p. 113-114.